The most effective way to do it, is to do it.
By failing to prepare, you are preparing to fail.
Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible.
Wherever you are - be all there.
It's always too early to quit.
I can, therefore I am.
Be gentle to all and stern with yourself.
To know oneself, one should assert oneself.
Only the educated are free.
If you're going through hell, keep going.
So I think you have to marry for the right reasons, and marry the right person.